Once upon a time, a Dad lost custody of his kids. š He was not a thug or an absentee dad. Perhaps that was the problem. He did not embody the stereotype or the ghostly image of the mother of his childās father.
Nonetheless, the children were snatched from Poppa. š¢ After a tsunami of tears and court fees, the father reunited with his children. But, he realized they were infected and institutionized to believe he did not care. He had to do a figure eight on anorexic ice, for he was under surveillance by the courts, his ex, and, sadly, his children.
He was expected to be responsible for raising his kids without any authority. #FatherhoodStruggles
Fatherhood is a negotiated space. šØāš§āš¦šŖ
In courtrooms, weāre viewed as second-tier parents; we are reduced to financial benefactors facing maternal gatekeeping, court biases, undermining, and historical and gender trauma that impede our ability to parent. #ParentingInequality
Yet, through the frustrations, we are resilient and show up for our children like mothers have done for centuries. š #ResilientDads
But fatherhood is not a negotiated spaceābeing an educator requires one to become a master on a tightrope, walking on greasy barb wire on windy days. ššØāš« #EducatorChallenges
We all know it takes a village to raise a child. The three pillars of the stool are family, students, and educators. The last one is the most neglected. Teachers are NOT glorified babysitters! They are warriors fighting administrators, PTA, students, and, most sadly, parents. Educators are overworked and underpaid, yet they function as our kidsā coaches, disciplinarians, and counselors, and now they are trying to make us armed security (but thatās a different topic). They cannot be our kids' parents. #SupportTeachers
First, they lack authority, and students do not know it. How often are teachers expected to endure behavioral issues from home and the community? How frequently have parents come to the school and burn the bridges needed for their children's success? š« #TeacherChallenges
For this Father's Day, I am asking my fellow dads to collaborate and form a foundation to support our teachers. Begin by asking how I can best serve you to serve my kids. Together, we can detour the pipeline from prison to progress. šØāš¦āš¦š
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